Music man blog
(sometimes we have stuff to say)
It's a lazy, hazy, crazy day in January, so I spent some time revising the website. My goal is always to make our website functional, not flashy, with all of the information our prospective clients need right at their fingertips. I'd appreciate hearing what you think!
Recently, on one of the Facebook DJ pages I follow, a wedding DJ was complaining about a "know it all" bride that they'd worked with. This DJ was complaining that the bride was being very particular about many of the elements of the wedding reception, including the music playlist. The gist of his message was "I'm the professional, I've been doing this for XX years, let me do my job."
I understand that DJ's frustration. Indeed I've encountered wedding clients who have very specific ideas about their special day that don't particularly jibe with my 27 years and 500+ weddings worth of experience. However, I'd rather use my experience to shape my clients wishes, not to overrule them.
The thing that I always keep in mind is that the client has likely been dreaming of this special day since they were young, and planning it for many months. As a result, some clients know exactly what they want. If I think what they want will lead to an unsuccessful party, it’s my obligation to share that with them. It’s my obligation to offer them alternatives that will lead to better outcomes. But the ultimate decision is up to the client, not me, and it's my job to make it work.
After nearly 27 years and over 500 weddings, a few weejs agi I got to experience a wedding reception from a new perspective. Not as an Emcee and DJ, but as the groom.
I have always told clients that the most important job of a mobile emcee/DJ is to coordinate the flow of events during the reception. It's something I've worked hard to continually improve upon personally, and it's one of the key elements I've preached to the DJ partners I've trained over the years. But I really didn't realize just how important it was until I was a groom. A groom-or to an even greater extend a bride-has a million things on their mind on their wedding day. They are BUSY...having fun, visiting with friends and family members, sharing stories and hugs with the most important people in their lives (including each other). The LAST thing on their mind is "is it time for the first dance", "when do we have the toasts", or other scheduling details. THAT's the value of an emcee.
My wife Amy and I were blessed to have my partner Michael Dodson as our emcee and DJ. And Michael did an excellent job making the evening flow just as we had hoped. We sat down with Michael and came up with a plan, and Michael executed it to a "t". It meant a worry-free evening for Amy and I, and a party to remember for our guests.
So if you are planning a wedding, please remember that your mobile DJ should not just be able to play loud music...he or she should be a skilled emcee-Master of Ceremonies. I'm glad we had Michael to fill that role and I hope all of you have the same experience that we had!